Every week, we’re participating in #totalhonestytuesday, sharing the things we’d usually keep off of social media, and giving a little more insight into our real (and very un-perfect) lives. Hopefully, in doing this, we can all feel a little less pressure to appear a certain way online, and remember that everyone around us is much more than just the highlight reel we normally see.
#totalhonestytuesday confession: I've been feeling very down lately, call it heartache, call it seasonal depression, call it whatever you want because honestly I don't even know what to call it. But my house looks like this more days than not, I haven't actually bought groceries in weeks, my laundry situation is the worst it's ever been (which is embarrassingly bad), and I'm totally slacking at work too. This whole not dating thing is harder than I thought it would be. I'm a people person to the core! I often joke that all the alone time I need I get in the car each day. Today my partners and I took a test to see what motivates us… surprise, surprise, I'm motivated by connection. NO WONDER I'm having such a hard time lately. So here is what I'm doing about it: I'm grocery shopping with Katie every other day. I'm going to the gym as a social event (and as a workout, but that won't keep me coming back), I'm spending more time with Sarah and Sarah and Mike and TJ and board games, I'm working at coffee shops instead of the house, I'm going to rent a room in a house instead of live alone. I'm going to be around people, dammit, because it's what is best for me. Connecting with others is what makes me ME, and I miss ME. I'm going to get myself back there.
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Day 19 of the #31DayPurge – WTF. I am holding a whole bunch of napkins. They're tightly saran-wrapped, why? Because that is how I packed them up to move. Back In 2014. They're not even special/fancy napkins, just plain ones of various shapes and sizes that I hoarded over time and clearly haven't used since. I'm a monster, I must be stopped. How is that for a #totalhonestytuesday haha #Minimalism #hoarder #declutter
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#totalhonestytuesday today's one of those days where I'm complaining about making it to the gym because it's so damn cold! But my promise to myself of keeping this going 3-4 times a week has me determined even if I don't feel like it. It's not about immediate results, it's about a healthy lifestyle. ☺ #bodypositive who would've thought I'd like going to the gym and it'd be part of my routine?! 😅
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#totalhonestytuesday this weekend I got a new work computer (the gold MacBook) because Marc is taking my old one for his new personal computer. Since then, I took it out and set up my account, took a cute Instagram with it, then set it aside because I've been too lazy to transfer all my files. I am a fraud! It's so cute tho 😍
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Okay, inspired by @tulipsandlattes and @faganchelsea, here's my #totalhonestytuesday: I try really hard to keep the house picked up, especially during the week. It's a lifesaver to my mental health. However, I keep these two baskets – his and hers – in the spare bedroom, and into them goes anything I don't want to deal with. This is not including the receipts I've been meaning to go through/itemize for MONTHS. Tax time should be real fun this year. Oh, and that piece of furniture the baskets of doom are sitting on? I stripped/sanded it MONTHS ago with the intention of painting it white and turning it into a bar cart. In my mind, future Lauren has all of her shit together and this configuration does not exist — but for now, current Lauren is just going to shut the door to the spare room and have a glass of wine.
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#totalhonestytuesday – I really don't mind Times Square. Even as a New Yorker, I like walking through it and I'm always amazed with how many people from all over the world congregate in a single place at any given moment in time. The energy from the people, the ads, the lights, are overwhelming and hurt my senses but I'll never be someone who truly hates times square. #NYC #CityScape #Urban #Photography #PeopleWatching #Manhattan #Instadaily #timessquare
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what I wish I would have known at 15 💕 My biggest regrets revolve around bringing other girls down due to my own insecurities, and it's not too late to make it right. I'm learning how to lift women around me up by bettering myself every day, and I can truly say "I'm not who I've been" thanks to this bit of advice. If only it hadn't taken this long to sink in. #totalhonestytuesday // #repost @bustle.
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It's been a hell of a day. In the interest of being transparent, letting you see the real ups and downs that we experience as human beings, as mothers. Baby girl is sick with this really nasty respiratory thing and I spent the entire morning trying to comfort her. First we did a steamy bathroom and that helped and then she became exhausted so she slept. I did the sleeping baby dance while holding her which is ten times more challenging with a toddler. Then Pippy came home from Speech class, I shoveled a peanut butter sandwich down her because the mom of one of her classmates graciously offered to help me today by taking her to preschool and picking her up. Now Missy, my sick little, is finally sleeping, in her crib and I'm eating lunch, provided to me by @shamarie34 Jimmy John's because that's what friends do when you need them. They show up with a glimmer of hope even in the smallest acts. The dishes in the kitchen from breakfast can wait. The toys all over the bathroom can stay there. When you're caring for a little who's sick YOU need to care for yourself too and sometimes that means doing nothing but relaxing, taking a break from chores and responsibilities and just being you. 🤒 #motherhood #momlife #totalhonestytuesday #messyreality #sliceofperfect
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#totalhonestytuesday my hair is dirty & I wrote a little something about getting older on my tumblr 👵🏼 [link in bio] I remember when I moved back home after college and worked at the outlets and I didn’t normally feel embarrassed about it. But there were those few times when a pretty girl from high school would walk into the store and I would end up having to help her with something and I would feel so small and insignificant because she had her life together and I didn’t. And then I think of my life now, and how I’m still trying to figure it out, and how I’m currently looking for a job in a new place. But I don’t feel small anymore. I don’t remember when or how that feeling went away, but it did.
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It's almost 12pm and I'm still in my pajamas, oh and there is still a bed frame in my office… #totalhonestytuesday #onesie #pajamas #pajamaday #notgettingdressed #mindfulness #meditation #jonkabatzinn
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