Every week, we’re participating in #totalhonestytuesday, sharing the things we’d usually keep off of social media, and giving a little more insight into our real (and very un-perfect) lives. Hopefully, in doing this, we can all feel a little less pressure to appear a certain way online, and remember that everyone around us is much more than just the highlight reel we normally see.
And every Wednesday, we’re collecting stories shared on the hashtag here, so we can read them together and start our mid-week mornings with a little honesty.
I'm learning how to come out of the post-separation/divorce shell and do things I want to do simply for the reason that I want to do them, no company required. Typically those aren't things that are particularly cool or awesome. Watching the late night news on July 3, I decided to get up at o'dark thirty the next morning to catch a school bus to the top of the mountain and hang out for two hours before the citizenship naturalization ceremony started. And I loved it. I'm going to live my life, dammit. #totalhonestytuesday
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I got my first official email from my Master's program. It's principles of economics and the professor has asked us to purchase an online code yo access our textbook and quizzes as such. I haven't looked at the cost yet, but I'm guessing private university, graduate program, online textbook ~ $100+. Higher ed in the US is the primary reason my parents immigrated here: Better education, better life. I think that's the immigrant parent motto. I firmly believe that education is am investment and so spending money of textbooks is worth it. It doesn't mean that it's accessible. Education is one of the most inaccessible right, even in a country as developed as the US. I'm still job hunting and so a lot of this financial support is coming from my parents. It's not been easy finding a job because of the economy and increasing competition. But now there are strategies to find a job, make sure your resume looks a certain way and hope that the people behind the screen reading my application aren't putting me in the "no" pile because of my name, my gender, my less than 4.0 gpa.
So, I'm currently taking a Coursera econ course and looking forward to taking this economics course because I want to learn what motivates people and their decisions, so that I can learn how to make smart decisions so my parents' investment, and my investment, exemplify that motto: Better education, better life.
Ps: I absolutely appreciate my life at this moment and feel extremely grateful for all that I am, can accomplish and hope to accomplish.
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Story time: It is a little known but true story about me that in college, in a professional setting, an older (than me) man told me he was staring at me because this was a "naked dress," meaning you could picture someone naked in it. As much as it pains me to admit it, I have been hesitant to wear this dress ever since. And you know what? Screw him for robbing me time with my dress. Today, I'm taking it back. I'm reclaiming the not naked dress. 👊💃 #totalhonestytuesday
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getting fit together for a wedding makes us true friends. so does sharing our insecurities about our bodies & hating the person that created #burpees. then eating a smoothie for dinner instead of our tacobell. #totalhonestytuesday #vanhooservows | 188/365
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I guilt myself sometimes for having a perpetually cluttered personal space, for dropping my clothes on the floor, for never putting anything back in its place. These spaces get occasional rescue from the depths of disorganization instead of regular upkeep. But I also try to remind myself that lots of things are more important than whether or not my earrings are all stored in the same place. #totallyhonesttuesday
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@faganchelsea this is way early for #totallyhonesttuesday, but I thought I'd share anyway. I had to get the muffler and piping replaced on my vehicle this morning. Sadly I'm not in a position to not use the car, so I saw it as a necessary repair that I probably shouldn't wait on. The silver lining is because of my diligence over the last 6-12 months, I was easily able to pay upfront (not putting it on credit) without it affecting my monthly budget (for context, this is about $100 over what I pay in monthly student loan payments). It's the small victories. #thefinancialdiet #personalfinance #selfsufficient #budget #repair
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Nearly forgot to post my #totalhonestytuesday post today, but also avoided it because it's one I hate taking pictures of. It's summer, which means my skin is bare and out, showing all the lovely combination of acne, rosacea, questionable bug bites, and scarring that I usually try to avoid showing. And if that weren't enough, sun and sand tend to aggravate my skin and give me rashes all over my body. The beach is always an awkward place for me because I will just never feel sun kissed and glowy, but at least this year, I'm not going to try and hide my blotchy shoulders under tee shirts when all I want is to let them breathe.
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This is the cleanest my desk has been in months. Despite working from home and needing an organized space to write, grade, think, and plan, my desk often becomes a platform for all manner of random room ephemera. Determined to have this next six months be more seamless and efficient in terms of work/life balance, and with more consulting than ever demanding my focus, I went out and got a new shelf and paperwork organizer from @thecontainerstore to create more order. I wouldn't normally spend money on a better home office, but a better desk situation (sans a new desk entirely) was desperately needed #totalhonestytuesday #freelancer #desk #declutter
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It's time again for @faganchelsea's #TotalHonestyTuesday challenge. This is just one of my sets of stretch marks. My weight has been a yo-yo since graduation — dropping when I moved for my first job in a very pedestrian-friendly city, gaining when I moved back to very NOT pedestrian-friendly Orange County, dropping again when I was sick and on medical diet restrictions all of last summer, and gaining again since the restrictions were lifted. I thought I was okay with my new curves until I actually stepped on a scale for the first time in months and learned I am, by far, the heaviest I've ever been (165, since we're being #TotallyHonest). Every day is a struggle between acceptance and scolding myself. I'm limited in the exercise I can do because of joint and muscle problems, but thanks to last year's illness I know exactly how much I have to deprive myself of food to make any meaningful change, and I'm not convinced that amount of misery is worth it. So in the meantime, I'm learning how to dress my new body and trying not to dwell on the extra pounds too much — glaring reminder though these stretch marks may be. #bodyimage #honesty
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