Every week, we’re participating in #totalhonestytuesday, sharing the things we’d usually keep off of social media, and giving a little more insight into our real (and very un-perfect) lives. Hopefully, in doing this, we can all feel a little less pressure to appear a certain way online, and remember that everyone around us is much more than just the highlight reel we normally see.
And every Wednesday, we’re collecting stories shared on the hashtag here, so we can read them together and start our mid-week mornings with a little honesty.
#totalhonestytuesday: day 3 of #insanity. we have trouble making it thru the entire workout. BUT we are up at 5am and doing it! #shaunt #vanhooservows #fitlife #antidietproject @faganchelsea | 195/365
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#totalhonestytuesday During my last few weeks before work, I've been desperately searching for professional footwear that doesn't hurt or kill my wallet. Since my feet hate flats, it was a miserable search. I realized I had to be an adult and spend real money on quality goods, so here are my #colehaan flats that feel like walking on a cloud but were 4-5x what I normally spend on shoes as a cheap college student…#ouch. Now I just have to make sure they are never alone with my cat…
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Today's #totalhonestytuesday was supposed to be an action shot, but as it's currently raining buckets, that's going to have to wait. Anyway, after a lifetime spent avoiding running because I have a genetic knee problem that makes them hurt — and sound like someone crunching popcorn — when I do so much as a lunge, I've found a way to slowly start integrating jogging into my routine in a sustainable way, thanks to c25k. (I'm on week 2.) I'll still probably end up getting surgery in my 40s, but if I go at my own pace and heed my doctors advice, I can integrate jogging, a fun (and free!) form of exercise, into my routine, where I always thought I couldn't. Right now I have the pace of a 70 year old, but it's already making everything — from bringing my groceries up the stairs to my dance class — a lot easier. And I feel grateful.
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In support of @faganchelsea #totalhonestytuesday movement, which calls on us to share "insecurities and failures with the same open collaborative spirit with which we share our triumphs" in an effort to balance out a highly curated image of "perfection" on social media, I present my dining room table. It has looked like this for a year because I run two businesses, take care of our small pack of dogs, take care of my mother's affairs because she has dementia and am trying to renovate a "fixer-upper house" that needs a lot of fixing with money I don't have right now. I often feel overwhelmed and drained and am not good at accepting help from others. I try to maintain a positive outlook, am working on achieving more balance in my life to find time to take care of myself and am taking a full 5 days off starting this Friday. This post is difficult for me because I am leery of sounding ungrateful or whiny and it requires vulnerability but l'm just gonna power thru and hit the magic post button.
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Guess which: A. The answer to almost two years of wondering, why is there a dent in that wall? B. The very unhappy result of years of water damage colliding with 107 yr old brick, long before we ever belonged to each other C. A small hole in my kitchen that represents a 10 x 20 foot wall that needs to be removed from the back of our house in the middle of DC summer D. C's new favorite place to hide toys E. All of the above #totalhonestytuesday
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this #totalhonestytuesday i woke up with a really cute pimple next to my mouth, begging to be instagramed, so i'm just following orders. considered coloring it in & pretending it was a newly sprung, crawford-esque beauty mark. BUT i didn't do that. so here's my face– it will never be perfect but it's mine & i love it anyway 🎈
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#totalhonestytuesday This is the current time, and I have not started to do work yet. This is pretty common these days and is definitely part of the reason I get less done than I need to. I'm trying to fix it but breaking bad habits is a looong process. I have my current files open and I'm about to get started. (Hesitant to post this because admitting it could potentially be a terrible professional move, but i still get the important stuff done and I'd rather be able to admit to my imperfections, thank you very much.) #procrastination #timemanagement #selfimprovement #gettingbetter
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Behind this perfectly curated wall of books is a collection of teen fantasy books I can't bear to part with. I re-read them all the time, but they're not as pretty so they have to stay hidden because #appearances. It's totally lame & yet I can't bring myself to change it. #totalhonestytuesday
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Haaay #totalhonestytuesday I used to make fun of calorie counting pretty hard, and now I'm listing every single thing on my notepad. The joke is on me, babe, along with a cool 5-10 extra pounds. I'm not mad at the way I look, but I realize that I need to be healthier and diet is 80% of that. And that 80% is quite the bitch.
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#totalhonestytuesday: As of this year I'm responsible for my own health insurance. It's been challenging to keep everything straight and I've made more than a few frantic calls to my dad for help. This bill was overdue for a little while, but thankfully it was not too pricey and I was able to pay it off in full recently!
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For @faganchelsea's #totalhonestytuesday. As many of you know, I'm moving to Spain in September to spend a year teaching English. This past Friday I went to Chicago to apply for my visa, which involved driving 6 hours from Cleveland just to spend 30 seconds handing in paperwork at the consulate. The visa alone cost $160, that's not even including the costs for processing the various paperwork items needed to apply (background check, apostille, medical certificate, etc). A lot has been said about various forms of "privilege" and this has really opened my eyes to the privilege that I have to move to the other side of the world. I am fortunate to have come from a solid middle class background (and no, my parents are NOT financing any part of this, I am paying for it entirely myself). Acknowledging this has humbled me and made me more aware of other forms of privilege that I may or may not have. (Sorry for long caption, needed to put this out there.)
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#totalhonestytuesday inspired. I am currently #struggling with finding a place I truly #belong. A sense of #belonging is a human need and helps people to see the value in life and cope with the difficult times. Being a strong woman has always been something I've been proud of growing up but I am realizing that it is also something that has put targets on my back over the years. I haven't been able to find the right opportunity yet that has been with a group of people who really appreciate me for who I am and the skills I bring to the table. People who can really see my potential without being intimidated by it. Certainly, I've had a few great people who have believed in me (you know who you are) but unfortunately it wasn't enough to overcome those who decided to stand in my way. I also have had people who I thought were my friends bow out without any word or who have alienated me simply because they chose to pass judgement on things they did not fully understand. While I am certainly hurt by their actions, I forgive them. Nobody is perfect and that includes myself. If I have done something to upset or hurt you, know that was never my intention… that while I may speak the hard truth sometimes it always comes from a good place. I know that while life gets busy and sometimes people can't get together as much as they would like… no matter how much time has passed I will always be there for my true friends when they need me. It's hard not to get discouraged when people seem to be betting against you, but I'm going to keep my head held high and keep moving forward. The right opportunity and the right people are out there I have to just keep looking. #truth #realtalk #sharingideas #strongwomen #strong #strength #inspiration #quotes #keepmoving #believeinyourself #struggle #imperfect #worthy #behindthescenes #real #honest #honesty #reallife #hurt #forgiveness #nojudgement
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I love this so much. I really need to pull my head and heart up. My spirits have been low and I've been feeling so lost. I have so many beautiful things to be so fucking stoked about but instead I keep focusing on things that cause me anxiety and make me feel so low. I need to re-evaluate myself and my conscious. I need to focus on what Is beautiful in my life, instead of what needs improvement. I need to learn to breathe when things start to spook me. I need to learn how to calm my mind and not listen to all the asshole things it tells me. I have so much to be grateful for! Im going to only focus on the blessings I've been given and not my shortcomings. Because I am never going to be this in love, never be this young or this free. I am so blessed and honored to be apart of my best friends love story! I am not where I pictured myself; but I have more than I could ever thank god for. I am more than my anxiety. I am going to look at this life through the colorful, happy, grateful lens. #totalhonestytuesday
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For @faganchelsea's #totalhonestytuesday. I made a really delicious smoothie from blueberries and other fruits around the house. For dinner. I live at home with my family, and they're out of town, so I'm fending for myself. The prospect of putting together and cooking /meals/ that are not grilled cheese is overwhelming to me. I don't know how my parents do it everyday. So I just threw fruit in the blender and called it a day. Tomorrow will be better.
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Share your own honesty next week, and join the conversation.