Every week, we’re participating in #totalhonestytuesday, sharing the things we’d usually keep off of social media, and giving a little more insight into our real (and very un-perfect) lives. Hopefully, in doing this, we can all feel a little less pressure to appear a certain way online, and remember that everyone around us is much more than just the highlight reel we normally see.
And every Wednesday, we’re collecting stories shared on the hashtag here, so we can read them together and start our mid-week mornings with a little honesty.
I went to a dentist to have my teeth fixed, instead I was told that I was very attractive BUT people couldn't see it because… my teeth needed to be "rehabilitated". His very words, yes. He just had to rub it in. 😂 While I haven't fully dismissed the idea of having a statement smile, I am dismissive of the fact(?) that the measure of attractiveness (and even success) should be based on outer appearances. I usually take selfies with my duckface on but today, here's an idontgiveaflyingratsass smile to celebrate #totalhonestytuesday PS: Im using a filter because my skin is also in dire need of rehabilitation, and I dont want to give it all in one go. That's for another tuesday to bare. #donthate XD ✌🏻️😘
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For #totalhonestytuesday, I'm borrowing this quote from the lovely @jamievaron, whose words and designs are a huge source of confidence. I've been feeling a lot of pressure lately, and my anxiety tremors have come back. Running your own business has been much harder than I ever imagined, and nearly every day I find myself having to talk to someone way more experienced than me, or make decisions I've never made before. And as women, we've not been raised to trust ourselves implicitly or to "fake it till we make it" in terms of professional confidence. So I'm often left feeling like an impostor, and therefore riddled with anxiety. Reminding myself that everyone has to figure things out, and that I'm not the only one in new territory, is one of the few things that really helps. I don't feel like a "boss," but at least I feel like I could be one someday.
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I sporadically suffer from adult acne – not just pimples, but proper, under-the-skin cyst-like monstrosities that feature predominantly along my jaw and chin. What I'm noticing is that it tends to be colder weather that brings on a flare up, and the sun is like a magic healer. Rome is in her third week of a heatwave that sees the thermometer hit upwards of 35 degrees (so hot I took a cold shower at 3 a.m. this morning!) and as I left the house earlier I noticed: I'm GLOWING. Being here, sweating like a pig, has done something GOOD. I don't realise how detrimental bad skin is to my self-confidence until I clear up and feel like my "best" self again. So, for @faganchelsea's #totalhonestytuesday this is what I've got. Temporarily bright skin, and crossed fingers that I get a good run of it. *prays to skin Gods* *doesn't wish bad skin on worst enemy* *continues to stare in mirror at this wonder*
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easy to forget how lucky I am to work for #kentucky & the attorney general when you get yelled at daily on the phone from the very same citizens you promise to help product & serve. but, today is a good day, & I can do this. #totalhonestytuesday #statecapital #frankfort #getoutkentucky #explorekentucky #kentuckyproud #jackconway | 201/365
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#totalhonestytuesday: We're not using our air conditioner this month, even though it's been insanely hot, because our electric bill was way too high last month. It's definitely been a lesson in discipline to not turn it on, even when LA is determined to make us sweat profusely.
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Inspired by @faganchelsea I would like to post a #totalhonestytuesday that has nothing to do with finally becoming a Starbucks gold card member after being a cardholder for two years. I would like to talk about how difficult it is running your own business. Of course, I am passionate about my photography, but I ran into it without understanding all of the other aspects of running a photography business. Not only do I have to be a photographer, but a bookkeeper, a salesperson, a web designer, a receptionist, etc. etc.! It's overwhelming, but 100% worth it. ❤️ I'm happy to have such understanding and supportive clients as I begin to build this business. PS, I just received my Starbucks gold card in the mail and I'm pretty excited about it. #vsco #starbucks #goldcard #honesty #photography #photographer #business #lifestylephotography #lifestylephotographer #bokeh #canon #50mm
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this is me on the night of my graduation- just look at that double chin! me and my magical friends spent the night celebrating in a field, in sequins, without a care in the world and full to the brim with dreams and aspirations. following in the footsteps of @faganchelsea 's #totalhonestytuesday i wanted to be truthful and admit that – 4 years on – i am not even close to achieving what i had planned and that the last couple of years have knocked me for six in terms of my career and relationships. hopefully by admitting that, the gods will take pity and things will begin to change for the better. think about what you would like to get off your chest this tuesday and get involved using the hash tag. it's nice to know we're not all perfect sometimes…
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Last summer I was able to run 10 miles at a time at about a 9 minute/mile pace. After an extremely difficult school year in which I struggled with depression and anxiety to the point where the most I could do some days was make sure I had eaten a meal, I found myself starting completely over this summer. I love running, but starting over is really hard. In the spirit of #totalhonestytuesday, here are the stats from the first three runs I completed at the beginning of July—something I normally would never share on social media, or in real life. Because I want to remind myself, and anyone else struggling with something similar, that there’s nothing embarrassing about trying again. You are not a worse or less valuable person because of your inability to perform at a certain level. It’s okay to have “small” goals, it’s okay to relearn. Also, if you’re not already, I suggest participating in @faganchelsea's challenge to be honest on social media one day a week. There are real people behind every account (even horse ebooks, as it turns out), and none of them are perfect. A little honesty can go a long way toward reminding us that we’re human and capable of interactions more real and important than a carefully cultivated feed of staged photos.
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#totalhonestytuesday inspired. I really like this quote. "Not everyone will understand your journey. That's fine. It's not their journey to make sense of. It's yours." So many people struggle with mental illness and because of the negative stigma society puts on it, most of them struggle alone. They are afraid to share their deepest struggles for fear of judgement or backlash or being deemed unfit to be successful. Sadly, many leave us before we get the chance to tell them it's okay and that they aren't alone or weird or so different. They are human and we all have our struggles. So be kind to people and remember we still have a long way to go when it comes to acceptance especially of those struggling with mental illness. Not all people who struggle with it are bad or evil, remember that. Mental illness doesn't create bad people…bad people do so don't let that be an excuse to pass judgement on others. There are plenty of people who struggle with it and don't kill people but rather are highly functioning members of society. So if you ever feel alone…you can always reach out to me I will never judge and be happy to listen. Also remember that not everyone will understand your journey but that's okay because it's yours. 🌻❤️ #strong #mentalillness #struggle #human #kindness #love #notalone #bekind #life #inspiration #quotes #change #awareness #nojudgement #acceptance #itwillbeokay #strength #staystrong #truth #sharingideas #thoughts #realtalk #serious
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need to share this slow cooker recipe bc it was too good and simple not to. 1.5lb chicken breast🐓 1 jar black bean salsa salt/pepper/jalapeño/lime to taste cook low on 8hrs or high for 4 serve on bed of lettuce, plain yogurt, with 1/2 avocado top with scallions, cilantro, and a soft boiled egg bc why not🍳 and voila you have a dish that took legit 6mins to prep #yourewelcome #cubanmarthastewart #iguessyiucouldaddcheesetoo #totalhonestytuesday
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#totalhonestytuesday: this #Aldi cereal is my dinner. Because I'm too tired to make anything, and I just got home. And I'm also eating out of the box, no milk. These past two weeks have been a bit crazy/stressful/trying. I'll cook a meal tomorrow night, but for now, this is #thebesticando.
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Pigeon pose isn't so basic anymore when you reach for your foot and your hips are screaming BITCH PLEASE. But it's a good reminder your body will stop doing what you command it to when it's out of practice. Back to yoga, back to center. #totalhonestytuesday #icantfeelmylegs
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For @faganchelsea's #totalhonestytuesday I'm going to admit that I messed up yesterday. When I was getting ready to drive to campus for classes, we realized that I had left my car keys at my grandparents home in Kentucky. Thankfully my father was coming home a day late and could bring my keys with him, but the fact that I was without my keys and my drivers license while an hour away from campus was incredibly embarrassing. While I'm lucky my mother was able to drive me, my forgetfulness is inexcusable and could have caused a much larger mess than it did.
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For The Financial Diet's #totalhonestytuesday: I can't wait to move out of my current apartment because I'm tired of living my life in transition and sleeping on a mattress that feels like a 2×4 with a sheet over it. Also, I'm seriously overpaying which sucks.
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came across #totalhonestytuesday thanks to @kerrtut + @faganchelsea, I can't resist. || So many bad habits of mine stem from an "all or nothing" attitude. And not in the charming, Nike slogan way. I can't spotlessly clean my home every day, so I let the mess make me miserable. I'll never have this or that ideal body, so I drop my fitness goals entirely and turn to Ben & Jerry instead. I'd love to learn to stop craving perfection and find balance and a happy medium. Without that comfort, there's a whole lot of "nothing." (And, to complement my existential genius I've now shared, here's a picture of me during a time when I felt I had it all.)
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Share your own honesty next week, and join the conversation.