Every week, we’re participating in #totalhonestytuesday, sharing the things we’d usually keep off of social media, and giving a little more insight into our real (and very un-perfect) lives. Hopefully, in doing this, we can all feel a little less pressure to appear a certain way online, and remember that everyone around us is much more than just the highlight reel we normally see.
#totalhonestytuesday I read this book in France and have a ton of feelings about it as someone who once went through it herself. As some of you may know, five years ago, I wrote a negative article about the Slutwalk (it was a terrible article and I was an ignorant idiot), and got an enormous amount of backlash for it on the Internet. It was devastating, and I nearly stopped writing forever, but I ultimately learned and grew from it. I cringe looking back on the person who wrote it. A year later, I wrote a follow up article with all I'd learned, and some of the response was great, but some people still hated me and wanted to see me punished. To this day, five years later, I still sometimes get angry emails or tweets about it. The experience taught me that many people on the Internet — even "enlightened, pro-justice" people — just want to see someone who fucked up burned at the stake. They don't actually care about the person growing or getting better. To this day, I fear the moment I say something stupid or an old ignorant post is dug up from years ago, and this all happens again. I'm always waiting for the other shoe to drop, so to speak. And to this day, there are certain elements of feminism and activism online that I can't get down with, because I've been on the other side of their ire, and I know how harsh (and long lasting) the punishment can be if you are deemed problematic. My lesson has always been to be human in your criticisms and "takedowns," and to give people a chance to become a better person, because most of us will, if given time and compassion.
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So my #totalhonestytuesday is a little different today! I kept telling myself to buy a "grownup" purse, but this one really screams "EVE!" and makes me happier than any other purse did – and I'm the one who has to wear it everyday! So be honest with yourself, and spend your money on things you're really gonna love – rather on things you think will impress other people or make other people happy! #sailormoon
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I didn't own a real t-shirt until my orthodontist gave me one when I was in middle school. I only had sweatpants when I wore a uniform to school and needed them for gym class. Now, at 27, my sweatpants are a pair of Forever 21 cut offs that I change into the second I get home. #totalhonestytuesday
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#totalhonestytuesday how many times have you ever bought food solely because it looked good in a picture, and then bitten in an actually realized you hated it?? For me, more often than I care to admit, and this cookie is a perfect example of something I pretended to like on Insta and actually couldn't eat. (Also the fact that I regrammed myself is totally gauche and I apologize.)
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My first #totalhonestytuesday I spend a lot of time on my nails. For a long time I wouldn't leave the house without nail polish or with chipped nails. I've let that go but chips and cuticles showing still make me self conscious (so does the fact that my fingers are on the thick/short side). Today I realized that doesn't matter at all when a patron asked me how I could type with my nails so long and exclaimed I should be a hand model. #nails #manicure #essie #tartdeco
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#totalhonestytuesday we got some good news at work today, and my first thought was "let's have a cocktail!" It always seems like there's an occasion that calls for a drink, and I don't think that I've gone more than 3 days in the last six months without one 😬 Honestly, I'd love to do a monthlong "detox," but I feel like it'd be as feasible as giving up coffee. (AKA, not at all.)
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042616. #totalhonestytuesday With my work and messed up sleeping schedule, I dont really have the time and energy to make a 'decent' breakfast. Mornings include rushing and hustling so I just grab whatever is available and fastest to munch like milk and cereals, a banana, oatmeal, and smoothies made the night before. But these can only go as to making me full but not satisfied. Two years in America and I still long for that feeling of waking up in the morning and smelling the heavy scent of hotdogs, tocino, itlog, and garlic fried rice my mom makes. Also, I still miss hearing her say "Ate Bella bili ka ng pan de sal" just because she knows that's the first thing I ask for. Even after a 12-hour shift the day before, I struggled but finally made it out of bed early yesterday. I know that I should cut the "instant breakfast" streak even just for a day or three and I decided to do it. Not just for my own self satisfaction and happiness from bringing some memories back but I also did it for my brother and his love for Tender Juicy hotdogs (thank God for Seafood City having it in its grocery aisle). I'm not one person to take pictures of my food but I knew I needed to do it as a reminder of the things that I could start doing again to fuel my inner happiness. It always feels good to look back to something that has made me feel different and alive no matter how small or big it is.
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I'm so bored of Instagram right now. All the pictures I take don't look how I want them to; captions and hashtags are too hard to make #witty and #interesting; then the most annoying thing, my editing apps keep crashing mid edit. I try to post things but it's just a lot of effort for no real reason. Anyway, here's my hydrangea. 🌸🌿🌸 #alsowhatisthepoint? #disenchantedbysocialmedia #totalhonestytuesday
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#totalhonestytuesdayregram from @amritasong Don't forget to share (and tag us in) your #totalhonestytuesday. Here's what she had to confess. * "Here's my#totalhonestytuesday I was recently diagnosed with Hashimoto's, an auto-immune disease where my immune system is attacking my thyroid, which has been affecting all parts of my health and lifestyle. It took a long time to figure out what was wrong with me and it's been overwhelming to deal with, but I'm so glad I have an answer. Unfortunately, among other lifestyle changes, I was told I must cut out gluten, soy, dairy, most of my favorite vegetables, and sugar, mostly for good. It's been really difficult to come to terms with this. I've always been someone who is excited to try everything–I've never had any allergies, I love traveling to try new cuisines, and I love cooking with and for my friends. I hate being that person with a bunch of dietary restrictions. I'm already dreading eating out and having to study the menu and discuss it with the waiter, something I've never had to do. Not to mention, I work as a baker and I blog about food. Not only do I feel like I'm losing all of this, I have to completely readjust my diet. My meals, more of less, consist of meat and eggs and I've been trying to see the positives by discovering new vegetables that I can enjoy, while still continuing to cook and bake for others. So the photos I post of delicious desserts, I can't actually eat anymore. But at least I can eat one of my favorite foods ever: eggs! And pea shoots are rather delicious too."
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Share your own honesty next week, and join the conversation.