The #TotalHonestyTuesday Roundup, Vol. 39


Every week, we’re participating in #totalhonestytuesday, sharing the things we’d usually keep off of social media, and giving a little more insight into our real (and very un-perfect) lives. Hopefully, in doing this, we can all feel a little less pressure to appear a certain way online, and remember that everyone around us is much more than just the highlight reel we normally see.

#totalhonestytuesday I read this book in France and have a ton of feelings about it as someone who once went through it herself. As some of you may know, five years ago, I wrote a negative article about the Slutwalk (it was a terrible article and I was an ignorant idiot), and got an enormous amount of backlash for it on the Internet. It was devastating, and I nearly stopped writing forever, but I ultimately learned and grew from it. I cringe looking back on the person who wrote it. A year later, I wrote a follow up article with all I'd learned, and some of the response was great, but some people still hated me and wanted to see me punished. To this day, five years later, I still sometimes get angry emails or tweets about it. The experience taught me that many people on the Internet — even "enlightened, pro-justice" people — just want to see someone who fucked up burned at the stake. They don't actually care about the person growing or getting better. To this day, I fear the moment I say something stupid or an old ignorant post is dug up from years ago, and this all happens again. I'm always waiting for the other shoe to drop, so to speak. And to this day, there are certain elements of feminism and activism online that I can't get down with, because I've been on the other side of their ire, and I know how harsh (and long lasting) the punishment can be if you are deemed problematic. My lesson has always been to be human in your criticisms and "takedowns," and to give people a chance to become a better person, because most of us will, if given time and compassion.

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#totalhonestytuesdayregram from @amritasong Don't forget to share (and tag us in) your #totalhonestytuesday. Here's what she had to confess. * "Here's my#totalhonestytuesday I was recently diagnosed with Hashimoto's, an auto-immune disease where my immune system is attacking my thyroid, which has been affecting all parts of my health and lifestyle. It took a long time to figure out what was wrong with me and it's been overwhelming to deal with, but I'm so glad I have an answer. Unfortunately, among other lifestyle changes, I was told I must cut out gluten, soy, dairy, most of my favorite vegetables, and sugar, mostly for good. It's been really difficult to come to terms with this. I've always been someone who is excited to try everything–I've never had any allergies, I love traveling to try new cuisines, and I love cooking with and for my friends. I hate being that person with a bunch of dietary restrictions. I'm already dreading eating out and having to study the menu and discuss it with the waiter, something I've never had to do. Not to mention, I work as a baker and I blog about food. Not only do I feel like I'm losing all of this, I have to completely readjust my diet. My meals, more of less, consist of meat and eggs and I've been trying to see the positives by discovering new vegetables that I can enjoy, while still continuing to cook and bake for others. So the photos I post of delicious desserts, I can't actually eat anymore. But at least I can eat one of my favorite foods ever: eggs! And pea shoots are rather delicious too."

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