Every week, we’re participating in #totalhonestytuesday, sharing the things we’d usually keep off of social media, and giving a little more insight into our real (and very un-perfect) lives. Hopefully, in doing this, we can all feel a little less pressure to appear a certain way online, and remember that everyone around us is much more than just the highlight reel we normally see.
#totalhonestytuesday I've been waking up early or finding an extra 15 minutes here and there to work through @jessicahische's introduction to lettering class on Skillshare – a class I bought over a year ago but never started because I was afraid to fail…afraid that I might not be as good as the other designers on there. I hate that feeling of inaction because I'm scared to do something, so I do nothing. No more!
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After over a year of living in this apartment and realizing that my room made me miserable, I finally took action and made it a happy space over the weekend (and also got rid of SO MUCH stuff, a huge step for my hoarder self). As silly as it sounds, finally redoing my room after saying I would forever has acted as a catalyst for me doing other things I've only talked about before. So here's to a happy space and finally starting to do things instead of just saying I will… #totalhonestytuesday
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So I am unbearably late on my #totalhonestytuesday. THe reason? I honestly didn't feel like admitting this thing about my dog and my mental health. Here we go: my dog Jake is my favorite thing on this planet, but at the same time, I often feel the emotions he triggers make my mental health WORSE. We've all seen those books or those stories that say 'I was depressed and I got a dog and started running 20 miles a day and now I'm doing great and and my life is the best ever!!!" Those stories usually make me feel really inadequate since my 'I rescued a dog and he rescued me' story doesn't quite follow that easy happy path. I fostered Jake from a shelter 4 years ago and specifically told the shelter to pick a dog that was small. LOL, they gave me a sixty-lb lab mix. Of course, life is as life is, and after a week of fostering I was already telling him I loved him. When someone else tried to adopt him, I couldn't imagine life without him so I adopted him right there. But he started to show signs of aggression soon after – he would lunge at people and bark menacingly at other dogs. I think my initial reaction was 'aw, he's protecting me' but I hired a dog trainer anyway to address it. The trainer was awful and I just sort of gave up – almost saying to myself 'well I guess I deserve this bad-mannered dog.' That's a symptom of depression right there. On the other hand, Jake is unconditionally loving to me, my family, all of my close friends, and many other people. We've made strides together toward addressing his issues – he listens to me better now and I know (as I always knew) that he just wants to please and was waiting for my direction. It's my job to give him that direction. The fact that I didn't give it in the beginning is my fault and not his. I have learned an incredible amount from him about commitment. And about leadership and self-care. But I've also learned where my weakest points are. Sometimes I ignore problems and just hope they'll go away. I'm working on that. I avoided writing this bc I knew it would be long-winded and hard for me to admit. Long story short: dogs are the best and mental health is a long journey with no easy answers. The end!!!!
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For today's #TotalHonestyTuesday, I'm sharing something I don't often talk about. Secondary traumatic stress is deeply impactful, and working in the sexual and domestic violence prevention field means I'm no stranger to work-related nightmares, stress, and emotional exhaustion. Training is particularly difficult because it's my job to teach about the details of the types of cases we deal with, and to lead meaningful conversations that don't retraumatize the folks in the room. So tonight, I'm channeling Ty! He's my sister's dog, and he's an expert at self-care and play. Four days of training are over, two more to go. 🙏 . . . . . #puppy #bt #boston #bostonterrier #bullybreed #playtime #relax #selfcare #play #pup #dogstagram #dogsofinstagram #petsofinstagram #home #buddy #toy #favorite #titan #stuffing #diggingforgold #tugofwar #winner #training #feelgood #workshop #teach #learn #domesticviolence
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#totalhonestytuesday …when you get #sick in the #summer , but still have to go do #work.. and go to a #rehearsal …and carry stuff from your old #apartment all night :):):):) #честныйвторник #лимон .. как только заболеешь среди лета – тут тебе сразу и на работу, и на репетицию, и всю ночь таскать мебель из старой квартиры в новую 🙂 – и все это прекрасно так как движение – это жизнь :):):)
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It’s #TotalHonestyTuesday and the perfect time to vent a little. The last few weeks have been rough, to say the least, but with a new school year beginning I think I’m starting to get back into the groove of things (I hope). One of the best things about working at a school is being able to take advantage of shopping for school supplies. Lists and calendars are one of my favorite things, but more often than not I stock up on notepads and planners to try and kick myself back into gear and get my life together. This time is no exception. Over the last month or so, whenever I have a bad day I buy office supplies hoping that a new notebook with some fancy embossing or a well-writing pen will help me feel inspired to work on projects I love. It still hasn’t quite done the trick, but I’ll keep you posted.
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#totalhonestytuesday I have the first class of my grad school career tonight and I'm still in pajamas at almost 2 pm. Need to get ready. Don't want to get ready. #gettingreadyforgradschool #lastlazyminutes #mediaarts #history #criticalculturalstudies #unt
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1. I didn't take nearly enough pictures of this man when I went to see him: partly because he hates having his picture taken, partly because I was too busy enjoying being with him. 2. Today absolutely sucks for missing him. This time apart has been challenging and frustrating and exciting during the moments we actually get to see each other. But today? Today I really, really hate it. #love #mylove #sohandsome #boyfriend #longdistance #military #militarylove #navy #usnavy #usn #ilovemysailor #totalhonestytuesday
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#totalhonestytuesday: If I'm looking for a MAJOR pick-me-up, I'll go to a salon and get blow out. Yes, I know how to blow dry and straighten my own my hair. But there's something so ~relaxing~ about having someone else do it, and I get silky hair I can run my hands through for days. It's definitely not a cheap indulgence (It can be anywhere between $35-$45 per visit – including tip), but it always feels so worth it. #treatyoself #occasionally #curlytostraight
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